INTERVIEW 005: “BE YOURSELF. There Is Nothing You Can Do Better In This World…” – Mallory Lovings

Interview With Mallory Lovings

Ethnicity: Black, White and Indian

Profession: Entertainment industry. A producer and production coordinator at a company called Live.Me

Current Location (Country): Los Angeles, United States

Instagram Username: @missmallorylovings

What inspired you to get into the modeling industry?

HAHA. It’s funny because I don’t consider myself a model at all. I don’t have managers and agencies reaching out to me, I have never professionally modeled, nor am I a size 2.

I guess you could say I “model” for myself. What I post on Instagram is for my own interest. There’s no point in caring what other people think of your posts because at the end of the day if they don’t like it, they can unfollow you, ya know? 

I post for myself as motivation. I enjoy going to my page and having a reminder to keep making them money moves and living life.

How long have you been modeling?

Like I said before I’m not a model. But I do love channeling that inner, “sexy” part of me that I don’t always get to channel. I have my insecurities and I am self conscious, just like a lot of other humans, and I have just started to accept myself and fall in love with myself.

Taking photos is a way of expressing to myself the changes I have made within myself. It reminds me that I am beautiful, and it’s so refreshing to see myself as beautiful instead of doubting my self-image.

I hope everyone looks at themselves as models because at the end of the day we are all stunning in our own unique ways, both inside and out.

As a model/aspiring model, do you think that it is important to have a large following?

Not at all. I don’t think someone’s following says anything about who they are as people, the amount of effort they put into their work, etc. Everyone has their own way of expressing themselves, their lives and their work.

Social media is great, don’t get me wrong, but it also has it’s cons. A lot of people don’t post in a way that depicts what their life actually is life.

There’s a lot of deception in social media, so I could care less about someone’s following. It’s about who they are as human beings.

UGH, I literally hate when people just focus on, “omg, they don’t have any followers I can’t follow them,” or someone is a nobody to them because their following isn’t that big? THAT IS SO SHALLOW.

Who is your favorite model?

I don’t know if I necessarily have a favorite model. I have a lot of girl crushes so it’s hard to choose just one. However, one person in particular that I look up to is Taylor Rhoden (@tall.tay on Instagram).

I’ve followed her for awhile, so I’ve gotten to see her grow and I just think (from what I see on the gram) that she is beautiful inside and out. Her body image is incredible, it’s realistic and it’s healthy. 

And the best part about it is that she flaunts herself with confidence and it’s just truly amazing. She is just a real woman.

Were you ever camera shy?

I wouldn’t say I’ve ever been camera shy. I love being in front of the camera. However, I have been uncomfortable in some circumstances when I was dealing with being self conscious of my body, my skin, my smile, etc.

Even though I didn’t want to take pictures because I thought I didn’t look good, you could tell I wasn’t confident in the pictures and that just made my photos even worse.

Now that I am gaining self-love and a positive vision of myself, I WANT THAT CAMERA ON ME.

Have you ever been published in a print or digital magazine before?

I’m actually usually always the one writing in magazines, papers, blogs, etc., so I have been published behind the screen with my blogs, articles or posts.

I love media and I think it’s a beautiful thing when it’s used right and promotes positive content.

What’s something a guy can do to get your attention?

If a guys makes me laugh, IT’S OVER WIT. I’m a personality girl. If a guy doesn’t have a personality then there’s just no way I could give them attention.

I also can’t give someone attention if they don’t give attention. It’s attractive when a guy can not only have a conversation, but HOLD a conversation.

I can tell when people aren’t paying attention and aren’t fully invested in the conversation – it’s attractive when guys actually pay attention.

What’s an instant deal-breaker for you?

Hmm, I honestly don’t know if I have an instant deal breaker because I like to give people the benefit of the doubt and consider the circumstances of life that they might be going through.

Everyone has their own struggle and are going through their own situations, so I try to keep that in mind. Cockiness is a huge turnoff. There’s a big difference between being confident and being cocky.

Confidence is delicious. Cockiness is not-so-delicious. Cockiness makes me think of Jersey Shore for some reason and I never had any desire to watch that show.

What is your ideal first date?

I’m not picky at all. Honestly, I’ll have fun doing anything. You just have to make the best out of everything in life.

Although I love going to movies, I would say that’s not good for the first date because then you can’t talk and actually get to know each other. I’m all about having good conversations.

Tell us a random fact about yourself.

This is such a hard question. Let me come back to this…

What are you most proud of?

There are a lot of things I am proud of but right now at this moment I am currently really proud of the person I am becoming.

I always thought I loved myself, knew myself and accepted myself, but recently I realized I was keeping a lot of myself hidden because I was scared. I always avoided parts of myself that I probably should’ve allowed myself to discover.

Now I’m finally doing that and it makes me sooooo incredibly happy. It not only has helped me out as an individual, but it has boosted my relationships with my friends, family, co-workers, and ESPECIALLY my mom and that fulfills me.

That’s all I need in life, is good relationships with good genuine people.

What’s your favorite healthy snack?

Seriously? Healthy? I really love matcha. It’s a green tea but it can be used to make snacks (I haven’t made any because I’m lazy but one day), but it’s super good for you and it’s tasty, I feel like that’s hard to come by.

I also really enjoy Brie cheese… I don’t know if that’s healthy? This might be nasty to a lot of people but Sardines are super good. 

They are filled with a ton of good protein, oils and other healthy stuff our bodies need. 

Also, you can never go wrong with fruit. Pineapple. Honey Dew. Kiwi. WATERMELON OH MY GOD. It’s all just so good. They be good snacks but then have you lookin like a snack, too?!

You just can’t go wrong with that.

Did you have any mentors who greatly impacted your career or growth?

I have a lot of “mentors” but I never look at them and think, “wow you’re such a great mentor,” I mainly look at them and think about how much I appreciate them and look up to them.

I typically look at them as family, as people who I know will always have my back, encourage me, push me to the next level and support me.

These people range from family members, professors/teachers I’ve had, co-workers/managers, friends and even acquaintances who I don’t know well but they simply left a mark on my life.

I can’t single out anyone because there are multiple and each one of them have impacted my life or career in multiple different aspects.

Do you have any tips for aspiring models who are trying to break into the industry?

BE YOURSELF. There is nothing you can do better in this world, no matter what your profession is, than be yourself.

It’s so important because it not only keeps you grounded, but it allows you to stay true to yourself and not fall into positions that you don’t want or need. There are how many people in this world? So many.

But there is only one YOU. Don’t attempt to look like anyone else, be like anyone else or act like anyone else. You will never be them. 

But you will always be yourself, so focus on you. Do what you want. Fulfill your needs. Be who you are.

What do you want to be remembered as?

Positively happy.